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Couples Counseling Boulder, CO
Realigning Your Relationship
With Your Shared Values
A core strategy from my couples counseling Boulder practice...
It is not uncommon for couples to feel as though they are adrift at sea,
not really sure where they're going in life, much less what is the driving inspiration of their journey together.
In couples therapy, partners are quick to answer questions about some of the
activities or lifestyle preferences they share. Even during a difficult period,
I find couples can readily say what they appreciate about the other.
Yet, when asked to describe the core values on which their relationship
or marriage rests, many find this difficult to answer.
Core values are very often only implied or unaddressed in the exciting phase
of a new relationship. And, while a married couple may recall aspects of their
stated intentions or wedding vows, it seems with time the significance of their
shared vision is no longer at the forefront of their hearts and minds.
When faced with a life crisis, challenge or conflict, the real
significance of the presence or absence of a shared vision for your
relationship becomes apparent. It informs how to be and where to focus your
energy during harmonious periods.
And, most importantly...
It guides your process together during conflict and tension.
Many of the couples I work with in my Boulder psychotherapy practice have a
clear sense of what inspires them in life as individuals. And
they can usually give a great description of their partner's driving inspiration or interests.
But when it comes to core values that align them together as a couple - there is often much less clarity.
In short...
While a lot of couples can say something about their shared values,
few seem to consciously choose to bring those values to the foreground,
much less turn to them in conflict as a source of inspiration and guidance.
I always invite each couple to write a mission statement for their relationship
in the early stages of marriage counseling or couples therapy.
Given the nature of relationships, this process is somewhat distinct
from writing a personal vision statement.
It's also...
Quite different than listing your favorite activities,
interests, lifestyle preferences or hobbies. Such a list offers
little help in duress or crisis. Instead, I invite couples to approach the process as follows...
Return from couples counseling boulder core value process
Matt Laughlin, MA
Psychotherapist
303-929-3353
Contact Me
My Boulder Couples Therapy Practice Location is:
1634 Walnut Street, Suite 111C
Boulder, CO 80302
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Why "Spiritus"?
The Latin word "spiritus" has several meanings, such as spirit, courage, soul, and vigor.
Spiritus is at the core of a transformative counseling process, revealing one's intrinsic potential.
Spiritus Counseling
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