How would you describe your approach to couples therapy and relationships?
In my marriage counseling Boulder practice I observe that committed relationships and marriages, by nature, tend to surface every
underdeveloped and limiting aspect within us, as though a core function
of intimate relationships is to bring to our awareness our inner obstacles
to becoming more loving and compassionate with one another.
Many couples experience guilt, shame and frustration as
these inner obstacles to unconditional love naturally and
inevitably arise in their relationship. Without a healing approach which acknowledges, normalizes
and works through these primitive aspects of the human
psyche many feel hopeless in the face of difficulty.
Couples often suffer through attachment issues, fears of loss and rejection, and
repeated conflicts as animal like patterns of control, isolation and dominance ensue.
In contrast, couples who embrace a central function of their relationship
as a means to heal and grow are already more readily equipped with the
willingness and motivation to compassionately respond to these limiting
patterns in one another. This, to me, is the true value of marriage
counseling and couples therapy.
In my Boulder Couples Counseling practice I help couples to identify and undo their inner
obstacles to healthy communication, lovingness and
forgiveness. Couples counseling is not simply a
place to learn new tools and strategies, but to
realize a greater understanding of one another's
unique pattern and tendencies; personal, familial and cultural
programming that may contribute to limiting relationship dynamics.
It is also a place to become reacquainted with the brighter, higher and
more loving qualities within one another.
New knowledge and understanding assists couples in learning
how to respond more compassionately and support one another
in a mutual process of growth and healing. This, in turns,
empowers them to serve as true partners for one another,
supporting the other in the fulfillment of their potential.
Like my individual therapy practice, in my marriage counseling Boulder practice
I draw from a number of techniques and theories in working with couples.
I have received training with Michele Weiner Davis in a solution
focused couples coaching approach and may also draw from the work
of other contemporary theorists, such as of Dr. Sue Johnson (
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) or Dr. John Gottman.
At its core couples counseling relies on the same principles of
individual psychotherapy, so I may draw upong Jungian, Humanistic
and Mindfulness-Based Approaches to counseling in a couples context as well.
Finally, two central elements I explore with all the couples
I work with in my marriage counseling Boulder practice are:
1. Creating greater clarity and commitment
to the core values at the heart of the relationship, and...
2. Exploring unconscious dynamics and vulnerabilities in such a
way as to help each person understand their companion's most
difficult edges, while simultaneously assisting one another in growing further.
We've never seen a marriage counselor; what can we expect?
I work with couples locally and nationally by phone (see phone sessions
for details). For couples I offer free 30 minute consultations.
If you decide to move forward I'll meet with you both for the first
1.5 hour session. Prior to this session you will complete my
intake form and return it to me by email, mail or in person at
the first session. From there I may recommend a shorter individual
session with each of you separately. After that, depending on the
nature of your dynamics and the central goals you bring to counseling,
we would meet again for an undetermined number of sessions.
Whether you come in for a brief # of sessions or for a longer period,
you should have a sense that the sessions are of great value and
influential in your relationship or marriage.
Yes. I love working with couples in this context.
Premarital counseling is a powerful opportunity to
explore not only your current relationship and
communication dynamics but also explore significant
areas that are central to healthy relationships,
such as your shared values, your vision for your
life, lifestyle dynamics, career choices,
spirituality, family, etc.
Do you work with couples by phone?
Yes, depending on the context and nature of your relationship dynamics. See phone sessions for more details.
How frequently do people see you and for how long?
Like individual psychotherapy, this depends on the couple and their intention for seeking out therapy.
In my marriage counseling Boulder practice I have worked successfully with couples over a brief number of sessions and with others over a longer time period.
In general, couples therapy is of a much shorter duration relative to individual psychotherapy. Most start with weekly sessions for a set period and then may move to less frequent meetings as they integrate their experience and become, in a sense, their own couples
therapist and coach to one another.
Do you offer free consultations and how much does it cost?
Yes. I offer free 30 minute consultations
by phone and am available to meet in person.
If we decide to move forward from there I'll send you an
intake form to be filled out prior to your first session.
If you have any more questions about my marriage counseling
Boulder practice, premarital counseling or couples therapy in
general, please feel free to contact me.
Also serving the following Colorado cities and towns:
Arvada, Alma, Aurora, Bennett, Black Hawk, Brighton, Broomfield, Castle Rock, Centennial, Central City, Cherry Hills Village, Columbine Valley, Commerce City,
Dacono, Denver, Englewood, Evergreen, Federal Heights, Firestone, Fort Lupton, Frederick, Georgetown, Glendale, Golden, Greeley, Greenwood Village, Idaho Springs, Kiowa,
Lafayette, Lakeside, Lakewood, Larkspur, Littleton, Lone Tree, Longmont, Louisville, Lyons, Morrison, Mountain View, Niwot, Northglenn, Parker, Sheridan, Superior, Thornton,
Westminster and Wheat Ridge.
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